I take care of two young children during the strong (week). They are brother and sister. The boy is 7 and the girl is 3.
The boy always pretends he is a girl.
Have any of you worked with or have a child who has this kinda drawing? What is going on there?
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blessings!
hmmm, what do you mean by he pretends he's a girl? does he go as far as to correct people as if "no, i'm a girl". or does he copy his sister and do "girlie" things that she does?
without being clear on what you mean, I'd still like to try and offer up some reasoning and advice.
He may see his sister getting more attention for doing "girl" things and wants that attention too. he may just want attention. i don't know if it's a situation where he's a little jealous as the older sibling and feels the youger sibling gets more attention at home. does he have a father or male role model around him? i'm only asking because i wonder if having only women around him makes him mirror what women do. and if he looks up to these women he would naturally want to be like them.
my advice would be to talk to him and assure him that being a boy is just as special as being a girl. and he's just fine being a boy as God made him. I deal with my son always wanting to be like one of his cousins or a super hero. but i assure him that HE is very smart, strong, and cool all on his own. it seems to be working.
i pray i've helped in some way.
bless!
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Yes.
The child is comfortable being a boy most of the time. It is only when he plays that he decides he would like to pretend he is a girl. He isn't real girlie, just sensitive and real spiritual. He is gentle and kind and quiet and real meditative. He just is more attuned with the feminine principal right now. He does not carry a yang vibration. He is real soft and yeilding.
I always remind him that being a boy is a serious blessing and that the universe needs him to stand firm and be a lion, to be strong and to be masucline in nature, meaning secure within, comfortable within and brave. I also tell him is it a divine gift to be sensitive, to be able to look into a thing and see clearly. It is good to be attunded with the Goddess/feminine energy within life. I remind him there is a balance and try to encourage him to go there. To go the the place of harmony relative to yin and yang energy.
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Bless you Intuitive Mama!
I think what you are teaching and instilling in the little Prince is good. i agree with encouraging him to find that balance while still nuturint his quite spiritual side.
I think he will be ok if he continues to recieve guidance from you and the rest of the village that it raising him. if he in fact just has thsi quiet spirit it's vital that the lion in him be brought out as well. as you said, for the universal balance.
peace
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[b]Intuitive Mama wrote:[/b]
[quote]Yes.
The child is comfortable being a boy most of the time. It is only when he plays that he decides he would like to pretend he is a girl. He isn't real girlie, just sensitive and real spiritual. He is gentle and kind and quiet and real meditative. He just is more attuned with the feminine principal right now. He does not carry a yang vibration. He is real soft and yeilding.
I always remind him that being a boy is a serious blessing and that the universe needs him to stand firm and be a lion, to be strong and to be masucline in nature, meaning secure within, comfortable within and brave. I also tell him is it a divine gift to be sensitive, to be able to look into a thing and see clearly. It is good to be attunded with the Goddess/feminine energy within life. I remind him there is a balance and try to encourage him to go there. To go the the place of harmony relative to yin and yang energy.[/quote]
Bless Sis,
I think you really seem to have dealt with it in a wise way. If we teach our youth how to honor and respect feminine and masculine energy, it will assist them in knowing themselves at a young age. The children have to understand the balance of energies while they are young, so that as they grow older, they will transition into wombmanhood and manhood.
Sis, you made me have a light bulb moment with this post. Every young boy that I have come across that acts similar to the youth you watch...if I could have reasoned with them like that! This also made me ponder on how there is an imbalance with the masculine energy with a lot of the young men these days and no recognition of the feminine.....
Re:boy child who pretends to be girl
I actually joined this site to specifically offer some points about this concern. The overarching concern I had was that the stationary responses and perhaps even your question in and of itself was couched in the idea that this boy child would be "okay" (so to speak) as long as he understands he was born a boy.
This is a very delicate situation that requires more in depth handling than has been presented here. You mention your caring for these children, which means they are someone elses offspring. First thing would be to approach the children's parents about your observations - which they may already be aware of.
From there, it is incumbant on they as parents to make decisions about how to proceed.
But, also as an example, a young woman in my city recently committed suicide - and it is rumored that is because those around her were not prepared or able to accept that while she was born a girl, she [u]never[/u] felt like a girl. Made to feel as if she was the problem, her suicide note, it is rumored suggested that all the actors around her did all they could to "help" her.
Who knows in this case whether the situation is similar. His play may have no bearing one way or another on what he will become, just as many tough GI Joe boys are not promised to be masculine nor are their promised to be heteroattractional. Many Same Gender Loving men are very, very masculine andd do not fulfill many of the going stereotypes.
In the case of that young woman, lack of acceptance of her reality may have cost her family her life. It is very important to avoid being the first in a long litany of inviduals who may very well end up being a compilation of harsh redicule and lack of acceptance that he can no longer live with.
I say all of that to say - as much as some of us may want a prince to emerge, it's important to steer clear of attempting to recreate him and make him what he is not.
It has never worked, and worse it has cost the lives of a lot of great people - some of whom may have held the cure for Diabetes in their brains. Who cares if if a sistah' is "masculine" if she can save the life of our Grandmothers.
Thanks for listening.
Terry Howcott at [url]www.terryhowcott.com[/url]