Peace and many Blessings Sistahs,
First, I must say that this is an absolute wonderful site and I am honored to be here communing with you beautiful sistahs.
Now, I feel the need to share. I just found out that three of my friends were getting married. That information opened up an unhealed wound for me.
I am connected to a brother that I love very, very much. We were together for three years. We lived together, shared together and created together. I was much younger during the time of the relationship and I was not very embracive of the concept of self-love, therefore I dealt with lots of insecurity. One day, I literally cried out to the Universe asking "Whoever I am supposed to be, please let me be. Whatever I am supposed to do, give me the strength to do it." Less than a week later, the brother and I split. We wanted to give each other some space to grow, but we promised that when the time was right we would come back and love each other as we love ourselves. He used to always tell me that he couldn't wait until I turned 25.
I needed to deal with myself. That happened. I began to deal with my inner self. Through the guidance of the Most High, I created a women's empowerment organization called S.H.E.R.A.H. (Sisters Helping Each Other Reach a Higher Height). I learned, grew and loved. I continued to write for the most influential black paper in my city. I was performing with a very good band. He supported it all.
Years later, I went to Africa. I was 24 years experienced, when I touched down in the Mother Land. I stayed for six months. While I was there I turned 25, but one month and a half before I turned 25, the brother, my love died in a car accident. I didn't get to attend any of his services and my spirit was hurt. I expected to return at the tender age of 25 and become a wife. I love him so much and I can't get him out of my system.
I now have a daughter, she will be one on the 24th of this month. She was conceived in Mozambique and one of my elders thinks that she is my ex-boyfriend reincarnated. She was conceived a month and a half after his death with a man I cherished only as a wonderful friend, not my soul mate or life partner. Today we remain great friends.
However, I want to marry, but I feel that maybe my soul mate has made his transition.
What energies do you feel from this? Please feel free to share.
Peace and Much Respect,
LIFE
You are trully blessed to be
You are trully blessed to be one of the few to ever experience that deep genuine love that many will never know. The elder said your LOVE came through your daughter who was conceived shortly after he transitioned. meet him in her eyes, for i feel that in the spirits of those who have come back through young spirits. Feel him move through and around you. hurt, cry, DEAL, let the process unfold uninhibited.
My love's other half (his cousin) transitioned 2 years ago and it was incredibly tragic and difficult. 5 months later, the seed was planted, (she will be 1yr old this weekend), and we knew that he would always be with us. He shows himself through her , it is truly beautiful She has brought so much love and healing
Your beautiful daughter came to give you the strongest love imaginable, just when you thought it had been taken away!!
I strongly feel for you LIFEand echo the sentiments of the sisters below. Im positive thought and will your way. Remain open, he is still with you, You will know real love again
Peace,
Achieng
definitely a blessing...
i've dealt with a similar situation...he is still alive, but i've had to distance myself from him in many ways, and it's taken a lot of time and healing. in some ways the relationship is and has been wonderful for me. in other ways, it's been difficult and not conducive to my growth.
even so, as the other sistas here have said, it is a great blessing to have loved that way at all. love your daughter, love yourself, and, again, stay open. when you're ready, you'll love again, and it will be wonderful.
peace & light
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the universe is interested in your success.
you were put here to live in abundance.
your desires are sacred.
Soul Searching: Soul Mates: He Gave You LOVE!
Warm Love "Life". I think that the Sisters here have said it quite well! The brother that you were with may be gone, but I think it is important for your wellbeing to look at the meaning of a soulmate in a different way, like the sister said, finding a soulmate does not necessarily mean that it is a romantic bond but could very well be that of finding a person that effects your soul and spirit and life positively. This brother may have descended, but he will always be your soulmate because he has shown you what true and honest love should feel and look like. Like the Sisters said here...keep your heart open and maintain that blessing that he left upon you...the blessing of an impression of the feeling of LOVE..because you will need what he has given you so that you can pass that LOVE on to your next soul mate that you meet! When you think about it he gave you the biggest gift when you turned 25 that one could give...he gave you the emotion to feel the essence of LOVE so keep that gift flowing and be open to love another good man. With that said I dedicate this video to you and that love that you shared with him and I will visualize harmony, content, and the clarity of overstanding for your heart and your soul during this process:
SoulLiving ~ Every Minute Counts
Thank you
Thank you sister. Your energy is needed and appreciated.
Thank you.
LIFE
Wow
I couldn't even begin to comprehend what this must feel like for you. I can tell you my mother went through a similar situation in her youth, the man she was originally supposed to marry fell asleep at the wheel driving home from her house one evening, and died in the crash. But she was able to find love again with my father, and has had a very happy life with him.
You are fortunate to have had such a deep and blessed connection at such a young age. The fact that the two of you were able to step back and allow each other to shine and grow really speaks to the character of you both. Just remember that the Creator never gives us anything more than we can handle, and you are being prepared for someone very special. Take the blessings and lessons you learned from your past love and use them to move forward. Here's something you can do: Go out and get yourself a very special blank book, and fill it with all the things you learned during your precious time with that person. And when you miss him, look back through it and remember how much greatness he left you with. And meantime, leave your heart open, because something and someone amazing is headed towards you.
Be Strong
I try to remember everyday of my life that it is not our job to overstand anything that the Most High has planned, yet to learn from it, and take into our future experiences. The connection that you had with this person in itself is a Great Blessing!! Alot of people never get to experience that, to know love the way you did. The Most High doesn't make mistakes, he knows what is in store for us, we HAVE to trust and know that all will be well.
Your heart is hurting, yet for you 1st and then your little queen, you have to and you will heal. Don't continue to focus on the door that has closed too long, as we tend to miss the windows that become open for us. Continue to connect here at YMIB, as I have found so much strength that I know I will prosper.
Be Blessed
"Before you embark on a journey of Revenge, dig two graves!"
I am sorry you are facing
I am sorry you are facing such a painful situation. I can't even imagine it. However, there is a different concept o f soulmates, one that you may find helpful. According to this definition, a soulmate is someone you have an extra special connection with, possibly as a result of sharing past lives together. This not only applies to romantic lovers, but also to friends, parents, etc. I truly believe that we have more than one soulmate. How could the universe be that cruel to only give us one person on the face of the earth who we could truly be happy with?
A book that I find very inspiring is called "Soulmates: Following Inner Guidance to the Relationship of Your Dreams" by Carolyn Godschild Miller. It covers these concepts and much more. I think this book can really help you in what you are going through.
It sounds like you had a wonderful relationship and that is a blessing no matter how it turned out.