How do I overcome the pain and humility of a loveless marriage/Fraud? Right now my heart weights so heavy for a man I truly love, a man who obviously don't love me back. How do I know this well because>
#1: when he tells me he love me, it is always in dry tone. Never any emotions to it.
#2: When somethings is bothering him, instead of talking with me, he calls his family and discuss it with them. Never indicating to me the problem.
#3: An incident happened when a out of state relative came into town, bottom line the relative told him that I made him feel uncomfortable with my attitude.. Now Remind you, relative has known me less then two weeks, and the couple of times he was around me I treated him as my own brother(much love). However my hubby takes everything into consideration about what this relative said,without even asking me if something is going on or even wrong.. Hubby basically told me when it came down to his children, siblings, and parents no one will come between him and them. Me looking dumbfounded and at a loss for words couldn't believe what was coming out of his mouth.. Wow is all I thought considering..
#4 We have one income(mine) and he always talk about doing but never do for our family. I am one to give the benefit of the doubt, but when someone is who states to never have money, he always come up with things he want.. For ex. a brand new pair of Calvin Klein Shoes, Ed Hardy Jeans & Shirts..etc.etc.etc. Not to mention he is not trying to find a job, why because he is not use to working for someone(granted this is a man who always had his own business) however, he does not now.
#5 constantly reminds me how much he misses his old life. (He relocated to where I am)
#6 Always on the phone with friends and family from his home state, but can never share information about what going on, or even how everyone is doing.
#7 We both have 4 kid from previous relationships, my four loves him to death, his four don't even acknowledge me.
#8 For someone who does not work, he expect for me to come home from work cook his dinner, tend to the kids and serve him too!!! Does not bother to even take something out of the freezer for me to cook. Hangs out all day either sleeping, watching TV, or hanging with his brother(yeah that relative).
#9 I won't even bother to mention his sanitary attributes.

But ladies these are minor infractions or clues to our loveless marriage: Here is the doozies:

Beginning with: his my space & Face book profiles have him as single and they are private and he will not add me as a friend. Also he has two different alias on both websites.

#1: was caught emailing different females on dating sites: his response, He left the site open on purpose to see if I would check it??? and then went on to state whats his is his and I had no right to even look at his emails...
# 2 A few months later I place him on my cell phone plan.. Did I check the bill yes like I did every month before him. Needless to say various of number from his home town..didn't make a big deal of it(at that time) one number will stick out at me in the end!
#3 about a month after that, I was on my way to pick the kids up from dance class, I don't know why I didn't go my usual way, but I took the alternate route.. As I am driving down this busy street who do I spot on the side of the rode, talking to someone in another vehicle, needless to say he didn't notice me so I go to the next stop light and turn around and I pull directly behind the car he was standing at. For a minute he was so engrossed into the conversation that he didn't notice me. I let my window down and that when he noticed me, so he walks over to my car and I asked him was he going to introduce me to his friend? he couldn't even speak, so I try to get out of the car and he is standing in front of my door, so me being me pushed the door on him and go up to the vehicle to see the female he was so engrossed with. I introduced myself as his wife and asked her did she know he was married, she of course said no,and turns around looking for affirmation from him. I couldn't believe (yeah I could) he said yes, that I was his wife.. So I tell the young lady it was nice to meet her, I get in my car and leave, never to mention the situation again to him why< because it was what it was... I was not in denial of who my husband was and his capabilities. As days go on, I knew deep in my heart that this is not going to work. I send him an email(why because when it come down to discussions, he cant handle them, everything always turn to who he is) any this was just a few days ago and he still has not send me or even tried to talk to me re: a response. But lets get back to the doozie... I found out more about this man then I care to realize, how through yet another email, a email that damn near stopped my heart. Let's just say I found out who he really was... and who he really loves.. and guess what It's not me!!!
I guess the part that really hurts me the most about this situation is that I gave him the opportunity to walk away, we both agreed that if there is someone else instead of lying and cheating lets just be honest no matter how hard it may be. This is a man who told me in the beginning he had been hurt by a woman that he wanted to marry, I asked him was I a rebound he assured me that I was not. However I believe but can't be sure that this is that same female, who stated to him on Feb 4 that she believes she is ready to marry him. In a recent email that she sent him dated 4-1-09 this is an exact copy & paste of his words to her:

hey love of muy life how are you today good i already no i just wanna say that i thank god for you and your kids which is our kids now (redacted name) i love you more then you think you are the air i breath and you are my life line iam gonna love you for life you are what i want and need i love you baby you are the best

So ladies I am far from a stupid female, but tell me I get over him I and the children love him so.. How do I just walk away, move on and regroup.. ???