I recently turned 30 and I began to reflect on the good, the bad and the ugly things that got me here. These are a few of the things I have learned and am continuing to learn on my journey: 1) I can learn from every living thing. 2) If I haven’t learned from the experience, I will repeat the lesson. 3) No thing is constant. 4) I am learning to be less judgmental. Often times, the things I don’t like in others are the characteristics I am not yet willing to face in myself. 5) I’ve learned that I am a very open person, and feel deeply for others. This does mean I should take on every person’s problem(s) as my own. 6) I’ve learned that it is okay to say no. I used to struggle with feelings of guilt for fear I’d disappoint someone if I say no. 7) I’m learning to worry less, and let the Universe do the rest. Sometimes the universe’s response is way bigger and better than what I could’ve planned. 8) I’ve learned that for my own growth, I must surround myself with people who can foster it. 9) I am learning to be gentle with myself. 10) I am learning to forgive myself for past and current transgressions. With all that being said, I am pleased with my progress. I know that there are many more lessons ahead, but I know that this is the Universe’s way of shaping me into the beautiful person it wants me be!
What lessons have you learned/and are learning on your journey? What advice would you give to your younger self?
just turned 30 in march...
this seems to be a time of illumination...i'm able to see old patterns and habits and figure out how they serve me (or don't).
i'm getting far more comfortable in my own skin and not worrying about what folks think.
it's REALLY interesting being this age and (newly) single and childless. not because of societal whatever, but i think that it's allowed me to grow and envision in a way that i may not have made time for if i had a family. so it's ok that things didn't turn out the way i thought they would in that department.
but, ultimately, i can truly see where i've been and i'm using that to form my steps from here on out.
it's a good age. :-)
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the universe is interested in your success.
you were put here to live in abundance.
your desires are sacred.
Truth Indeed!
"i'm getting far more comfortable in my own skin and not worrying about what folks think. "
And, I hear the older we get, the easier this will be!
Well, I aint 30 yet.
I am learning that I am not perfect and to not stress and beat myself up. But, I got a month or so before 30 hits.
30 is a coming...
Soon and very soon! It's good though, and no it ain't the new 20...LOL! We don't need to go back there!
still learning
Thank you for sharing your truths with us, I agree with every one of them! I'm in such a heavy time of transition right now, it's hard to reflect on what I've learned, but so far:
*Take time out for daily prayer
*Listen more than you talk
*Do what your heart is calling you to do, even if others don't get it
*spend time in nature
*take time to make sure your mind/spirit/space is in order before
you go trying to fix (or talk smack about) anyone else's :)
My lessons & advice to younger self
This is a great thing to think about. Because at 30, we think we are so old but they is 35 and 40 and 60. There is so much more life to live and it gets better with time.
1 - I am talented, with time and dedication can accomplish so much.
I remember feeling not good enough for stuff too much when I was younger because I expected to just be great off the bat. Now I realize that greatness takes time; be it painting, dancing, singing, or even making friends, doing well at work, gaining respect. I thought either you have it or you don't for sometime and now I can look back and say how my experience made me better in a bunch of things.
2 - Study people, you can learn a lot about you in them.
Studying people is a new hobby for me. I like to look people in the eye when I walk past them on the street, I try to connect with people at my job in the kitchen or break rooms, I ask people things and listen to their answers and body language. We are so connected yet so distant and I try to connect with people more I feel that that is spreading joy and love in some way.
3 - Go places and do things.
Being involved and experiencing life is so valuable. Living in the moment, not worrying and taking fun adventurous risks is the spice of life. Enjoy your life!
4 - Take care of you.
Eat right - you need healthy nourishment to sustain mental health and energy. It's so important! You also need me-time, some people more than others. But it's okay to take a long bubble bath or order a slice of chocolate mousse cake with raspberry dressing topped with whip cream. Buy yourself things and give yourself rewards too. It's good practice.
5 - Humanize everyone.
We all make mistakes, need love, get pissed, regret what we said out of anger, grow and change. Some people are not so nice but try your best to give folks a chance and take the high road as much as you can. You'll feel better for it.
6 - People will tell you how they are pretty much immediately.
Listen to people's words and watch their actions. You will find that those who talk most are projecting what they want maybe not what they really are. And actions speak loudest - some people really do want to be good or nice but just can't follow thru but you need decide if that's okay or not... it probably won't be.
7 - If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.
This is a hard one but we need to protect ourselves. Some things are great but balance is important - watch that.
I'm still learning and working on these 7 things myself. I love my age now and am proud of myself. Thank you for this post. I enjoyed coming up with these lessons.
Peace,
Ms.Lee