"I like what I see when I'm looking at me and I'm walking pass the mirror", croons Mary J. Blige on her latest single "Just Fine". When I first heard this track for a quick second on the radio, I thought, "Oh Mary made a nice little track to dance to." When I ran across the actual video for this song on YouTube, and listened a little closer, I threw my right hand in the air, as to giving Mary J. Blige an imaginary high five. A few seconds later I had shed a few tears. My tears were of joy because I could sing this song and know for sure that I in fact love what I see when I walk pass the mirror.

At that moment, it came to mind when I didn't like what I saw when I looked in the mirror. It wasn't even really about the physical. I would get up in the morning knowing that I may turn a few heads. If I'd put on my skinny jeans that hugged the hips that my Grandma gave me just right, along with my camel colored boots that almost hit my knees, I'd for sure have a few idiots ask me for my number. So, I never had a problem with my looks. My issue was that when I looked in the mirror I saw a bruised, hurt, and sometimes confused girl, that could sometimes be a Bitch.

It took some real self-searching, forgiveness, and audacity to love myself (flaws and all). Not to throw any salt at my girl Beyonce, because I actually love her song, "Flaws and All" but, it's about a man loving her unconditionally. I learned that you have to truly love yourself unconditionally before anybody else truly can.When you become ok with yourself, everybody else will become ok with you. Like in my girl Badu's song, "Bag Lady", " Let it Go, Let it Go, Let it Go." Sometimes we tend carry so many bags from years of hurt and pain. Those bags can hinder us from loving ourselves and sometimes others. Thats not a good thing, so drop the load, and be alright with you.

I'm proud to say that I've actually been feeling quite sexy lately, but it's a sexiness from within. I feel sexy because I've acquired a new confidence in myself. I've always been a humble person but I actually have a little internal swagger. That's a good thing because from here on out rather I think about the good or bad in me, I'm going to always love self!