She Might Not Be A Good Friend If!

Finding a good sister friend is very much like searching for the right man to come into your life...you know, one that completes you, makes you feel special, listens to you, celebrates your accomplishments, and can offer up wise advice when needed. Well, just like it is hard to find a good man these days, it is just as hard to find a good sister friend too. So many women are very unhappy and when it comes to growing a friendship there gloomy glow can quickly put a damper on your life, your growth, and your happiness!

Just as you would when searching for that right guy, it is important to know that you have to look for similar characteristics when looking for a real friend. You would not go to a club looking for Mr. Right, so you should not find yourself in unfamiliar territory looking for friends that you hope will share your same interests in the long run. Just as you would not share everything about your life on the first date with a man, nor should you tell all your business to another woman when you first meet. It's all about baby steps ladies, and like we are hesitant to use the word love too quickly with our men, we should take the same precaution in using the word “friend”!

3 Important Things To Consider When Looking For A Good Friend:

Is She Happy: Make sure that your potential friend is happy with her life, especially within her own relationships, and especially within the love category. An unhappy woman will not make a good friend nor will she offer up wise and genuine advice when you need it the most.

Similar Lifestyles: Many times we have those we call friends that we grew up with but then due to life changes and growth, we just tend to grow apart. It is very unhealthy to try to maintain these type of friendships because you both will always find yourselves in a state of uncomfortable compromise. She will not understand your choices and vice versa, so be sure to grow your friendships with the thought in mind of similar life structures, it will save you a lot of drama and emotions!

What's Her Philosophy: Do your friends carry the same life philosophies as you do? If not then they cannot offer you much growth and will in return most likely try to keep you posted at her level or there will always be a one sided battle between who is right and who is wrong.

OK, So, Still Not Sure If You Have A Good Friend? Well...She Might Not Be A Good Friend If...

She Might Not be a Good Friend If: You have just graduated from one level of life to the next. You feel accomplished, your love life is flourishing, your career is going great, and you physically and mentally feel exceptional. So you call up your longtime sister friend to tell her some good news about your new promotion at your job. You are super excited and can't wait to share the news...the phone rings..you spill the beans..and the reply...unsentimental. Yep...She might not be a good friend.

She Might Not Be A Good Friend If: You and your sister friend have been single for what seems to be forever. You both take overwhelming pride in being single sisters on the rise and both agree that you don't need a man to fulfill you. Then you meet the guy of your dreams and while out at brunch at a lovely cafe in the city, he proposes and you feel like floating on water. So, you call up your sister friend to meet up for lunch the next day, you give her the good news, and instead of a congratulations, she finds any and every reason to deter you from going through with it even when she knows this guy is a good catch. Yep...She might not be a good friend.

She Might Not be A Good Friend If: Okay, so let's say she has come to grips that you are getting married to this wonderful guy. Now you start to notice that she seems to be a little flirtatious when around him and seem to talk about him more than anything else. You go to approach her about it and she gets irately upset. Yep...She might not be a good friend.

She Might Not Be A Good Friend If: Your life is pretty complete and you find your sister friend talking about your life more than her own. This is a clear sign that she feels unfulfilled and will slowly lead her down the yellow brick road of jealousy. Yep...She might not be a good friend.

She Might Not Be A Good Friend If: This is similar to the scenario above. You feel quite happy with your life yet most of your conversations with her seem to be all about her. Yes, there needs to be balancement ladies! If your friend spend most of their time talking about and interjecting into your conversations about what she is doing and what she has going on in her life, then it might be safe to say that she is not a bit interested in what you have to offer to her life! Yep...She might not be a good friend.

She Might Not Be A Good Friend If: You have come to really know who you are and who you want to become in life. You change the way you eat, you begin to feel more spiritual, and your ideals on life have started to transform. Your sister friend seems challenged by your new actions and you find yourself at the but of a lot of her sarcastic jokes. This is an obvious sign that this chic does not understand you and will not give in to the direction in which you are growing, nor is she willing to grow with you. Yep...She might not be a good friend.

She Might Not Be A Good Friend If: Your friend seems to be keeping tally of what she has done for you. This would most likely mean that she is only around you because she feels as though she is going to et some type of reward from your lifestyle. Yep...She might not be a good friend.

She Might Not Be A Good Friend If: She is always comparing your kids to each other. Whether good or bad: “Oh I wish my kids we're more like yours” or “You know, you should think about putting little bobby in a private school like my Joey...he's so bright”. Now you are sitting there thinking well, my kid is perfectly “bright”...what's her deal”. This chic here is trying to keep up with some level of life, and most likely she is not happy in either situation, whether she is comparing her own child to yours or vice versa. Yep...She might not be a good friend.

She Might Not Be A Good Friend If: She is always telling you what you should be doing even when she is not doing one iota of it herself. Now this should be an obvious one, but so many of our friends seem to always give the proper advice, yet they are not taking the time to talk to themselves about growing their own lives. Yep...She might not be a good friend.

“What's your take on looking for a good friend. Have you lost a friendship due to different lifestyles? Are you still searching for a genuine friend or have you already found them? Share your comments on friendship below!”