I've been making so many exciting changes, and moving towards a more balanced and fulfilling life by working to surround myself with positivity in every way. As I began to make these inner (emotional/spiritual) changes, the one thing I'd been neglecting became glaringly apparent: my health! I picked up some horrible eating habits while stressed out and broke in New York, and some horrible habits for managing stress (trying to drink and party my pain away). I know that part of balancing the rest of my life means adding health to that list as well, so my journey has begun. I've started by reading the Sacred Foods chapter of Sacred Woman, doing morning yoga, and drinking more water. I also sat down and took a personal inventory of sorts, so I can see what needs to change. It was hard to even write! It doesn't look like the writing of the girl who used to create big beautiful salads, steep herbs, and dance every week. But I know looking at it will help me move forward. I wanted to share it here, so I can't hide from it any longer :) Here's what I wrote:
My health and what I want to change.
I’m getting older now. I’m 27 years old, and although I look and feel pretty good, I know I could be doing better. I know I shouldn’t have as many problems, aches, and pains as I do. I also know that I’m fortunate to have a wealth of knowledge and support at my fingertips for doing better.
I’ve come to understand that maybe I’m just not built like everybody else around me. If they can eat tons of fried foods and processed things, that’s fine. But it doesn’t work for me. It’s harmful to my health, and it’s making me sick.
Problems/Issues
Chest pain
Heart palpitations
Shortness of breath
Joint pain
Depression
Lack of energy
Insomnia
Skin eruptions
Dizziness
Fainting
Clearly, something is wrong. Most times doctors can tell us what’s wrong when something goes terribly wrong—a stroke, a heart attack—I don’t want to reach that point.
I don’t want to be trapped inside an unhealthy body. I was blessed with a strong, healthy vessel. One that sets off alarm bells when something is even a little bit wrong. And for that I’m grateful. Now what I have to do is listen and move forward.
Yesterday, I had terrible foods. Mother’s beans with ham hocks in them, followed by a late night snack of chocolate cake frosting. That’s when I felt my womb literally cry out. I felt pain churning within her, and I’m nowhere near my menses. When I placed my hands over my womb, she said, “enough is enough! We can’t go through this anymore!”
Time to make a change.
As I continue my journey towards a healthier life, I know one of the things that hinders me is depression and stress. When I feel overwhelmed or pessimistic, I’m not good to my body. Two things I’ve been wanting to do to help balance myself are yoga and meditation. When I meditate, I often grow impatient or think of things that need to be done. I need to work on improving my meditation skills. I have to admit that while I feel wonderful after doing it, I have always disliked yoga. Today I decided to do a shortened practice (8-10 mins.) of Sun Salutations, and paid close attention to my body as I did so. I realized that a main source of my dislike comes from my joint pain. It makes it tough and painful to hold poses, and the discomfort is where my energy is focused. Clearly I need to take steps to correct my joint pain.
Diet:
I know it needs to change. The food I eat does not serve me. I sometimes find myself eating certain foods to “fit in” or feel connected.
My experience with eating a healthier/vegetarian diet was tainted as it was an outgrowth of a very controlling relationship. When I think about taking control of my diet, I think about that man who took control of me. I need to take steps to release that.
I’m also allergic to soy. My body doesn’t do well with anything highly processed, and reacted badly to it. Unfortunately soy is a cornerstone of the vegetarian lifestyle in most cases. I need to find alternatives that work for me (fill me up, provide adequate protein)
Maybe instead of soy foods, I’ll substitute with brown rice and beans like I did in Costa Rica. Eating brown rice, beans, and fresh fruit 3 times daily filled me up, and I had tons of energy.
Will I cut out meat? Maybe maintain a pescatarian diet since I’m not eating soy.
I’ve known for awhile that my body was crying out for a juice fast to rid itself of toxins. Maybe now is the time to start changing my diet so that I can prepare myself for that process.
Support, hugs and love on your journey
I also struggle with these issues of health, wellness, anxiety and nutrition. Stress has affected my hair for years and I always dismissed it even after hairstylists would point it out to me. I am currently trying to reprogram my craving for sugar and sweet foods. I am a sweet tea drinking, sweet dessert loving mama of a sweet tooth. I support you in your journey of wellness. stay focused :: peace.
I too am 27 years old, and
I too am 27 years old, and realizing that I need to consciously take control of what I am doing to my body rather than let my body and my health be batted around by circumstance. I am a medical student with a schedule that makes it difficult to do what I did when I was working: walk and swim regularly, cook most meals at home, eat at regular times, and sleep thorougly. But not doing those things has made me sick, both physically and mentally. I am Catholic, and have decided to cut out animal products from my diet for the duration of Lent, as well as attend mass more regularly, to re-attain some mental peace.
Let's hope that we both make progress regaining wellness.
Peace and joy,
Bella
You are not alone on this...
I also needed to do an inventory and realized all the unhealthy habits i've picked up and am trying not to become those things. I am 23 and also have aches and pains that would be at a minimum if i were simply healthier. I am still trying to fit a good exercise routine into my hectic schedule but as a first step, I have given up gluten. Surprisingly, everything i eat tastes so much better. I've been eating a lot of fruits, vegetables, and fish. We all can support each other via this blog (and I praise God for that). So I salute you on your journey to a healthy lifestyle!
MD
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Thank you!
Thank you for your wonderful post. I read it and could relate to it almost completely. I began feeling that way back in November. And I did a complete 180. I became a vegetarian/pescatarian (sometimes eat a little fish) and committed to my yoga practice. It's hard for me too because my husband doesn't eat the same way. I just got him to stop eating pork. (LOL) And my family, especially during Christmas, didn't really understand my food choices but tried to support me as best they could (while joking me at the same time). As you continue on this path, God/Universe will open up a way for you. Like the other sista said above, over time the yoga pain may lessen. And I know you will find substitutes for the soy. I actually don't like soy milk and love rice milk.
I'm wishing you the best on this journey.. we're all here supporting and rooting for you!!
peace and love,
The Caramel Bella
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Nice Post
Much Support Sistah!
Your post was very down-to-earth and something that almost 100%of sistahs can relate to. Most of us in this generation and the one before us did not start off with crystal clear wombs,vegetarian diets and as yogis.
WE are all on a journey to perfecting ourselves and it is Sistahs like you who can look honestly and realistically at their life paths that will truly heal.
As for the yoga. I totally hear you,it can be quite difficult to like yoga when you experience joint pain. I have been practicing yoga for some years now and have experienced joint and body pain in my first years because of my over worn joints from when i was a gymnast.
So i can relate to your situation, my advice is to keep practicing as much as you can daily and you will see your joints will let up. Also i know of a great yogic recipe for joints. I will look up the recipe and post it.
Also, i hear you on your diet dilemma too. This is a challenge at first but a good way to overcome social pressure is by simply informing people that you're vegetarian and they can prepare foods without the meat.
Peace & Love,
::Mafdet Maat::
Soy Allergy....
When I became vegetarian I found out the hard way that I was allergic oto soy. I feel your pain there. I was eating products with soy in it and everytime I would itch and swell. Luckliy, I work in an allergy clinic so I went to work and tested myself for soy, and sure enough I was allergic. Although I am vegetarian I am still a bad eater and I understand you whenyou say your womb cannot take anymore. I feel bad everytime I put all that junk in my body. My other delimma is that I am allergic to most fruits and nuts so it kind of hard for me. I have a hard time picking the right foods to eat. I am the only vegetarian in my house. But I wish you the best of luck on your journey.
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