or until Jesus comes back...That's what my husband and I always tell each other. I can't imagine living life without him. I feel so secure in him and the love we share.
For a while now, I have been perturbed by this whole let's just get a "divorce thing" especially with "church" folks.
Yah can't work it out?
I stumbled across this article, "My marriage was a mistake". (Read More Here). I've also been watching investigative legal shows where spouses are killing the other spouse. WTH is wrong with people?
Irreconcilable differences or irrevocably broken is just code for "I'm a quitter" or "I'm too lazy or selfish to make my marriage work". Yes, I know there are exceptions to every rule and maybe this does not apply to you. If not, keep it pushing.
I watched this show last night called "Black Men Revealed". Single ladies, if you haven't seen it, be sure to check it out. The show discusses the issues black men face and how they think when looking for a mate. Of course, these men do not speak for all black men, but it makes for good entertainment and insight.
So what's my point to the ramblings on marriage?
WORK IT OUT!!
Marriage is not easy and some require more work than others. Not every day will be perfect, but you'll have more good days than bad ones. Keep God first in all things. Each spouse should know their roles BEFORE getting married. And if you get married and don't know...LEARN. Submission is not a bad word and does not only apply to the wife.
Find a godly couple who has successfully been married much longer than you and your mate. They make good mentors. The grass is not ever greener on the other side no matter how much someone tries to convince you that it is. All grass still has to be mowed and cared for.
Invest 500% into your marriage and experience the freedom, security, love and happiness God intended.
Marriage is Beautiful!
Happily Married for twelve years...
...this month...and grateful. Realizing that the love we share is a gift born of God and something for which I have done nothing to recieve. I am also grateful for the strength my parents exhibited in their decision to divorce when I was a teenager. It taught me that it is not God's design to accept or remain faithful to a toxic bond - sometimes it is necessary to make this hard choice in order to live. Blessings and peace...
Congrats sis Innarae...
on being married for 12 yrs strong! That is very inspiring and encouraging for the rest of us who have not been married that long...and those who are not yet married. You are correct that those of us in happy, healthy marriages should be grateful for what we have...and not take that for granted. What's good today may or may not be so good tomorrow. Those who are now divorced, at one time or another, loved each other. Who knows why things don't last for some couples?...only they know.
My point is that things can, and do, sometimes change. Relationships, and the people in them, are delicate. That is why we must cherish what we have while we have it. And even if it ends, still give thanks to the Universe for blessing you with that experience.
Bless,
Saarchi
Sistahs, let's keep...
YMIB the peaceful, loving space that it was created to be. We are all here to share information, ideas, and when needed, heartfelt advice. I know we will not always agree with each other, but let's agree to disagree lovingly. This space has been nothing but peace thus far, so let's try to keep it that way.
Sis Tonya, I overstand that you probably meant no harm whatsoever with this blog. However, I also overstand why Sis Chayil may have taken it the way she did. Sometimes we have the purest intentions in the world, but our words do not always come across that way.
Just in case you're wondering, this is coming from a blissfully married sistah - 4 yrs strong in December. As happily married women, let's inspire our sistahs to strive for the same.
Bless,
Saarchi
Wow
You lost me at: "I'm a quitter" or "I'm too lazy or selfish to make my marriage work"." That is a bit selfrighteous don't ya think? I for one do not see myself as a quitter, I fought hard but in the end had to choose for my sanity and the sanity of my sons. It's a blessing to be in a marriage where both parties are willing to do their utmost but to act as if that is the norm is closing ones eyes to reality!
http://chayil-sacred-woman.blogspot.com/
Self Righteous
No. Please read the next sentence. "Yes, I know there are exceptions to every rule and maybe this does not apply to you. If not, keep it pushing."
Not all divorces result out of laziness, selfishness or one's unwillingness to give or try harder. Some divorces result when one person is trying really hard to make the marriage work and their mate is not. Other divorces occur in other ways. Whatever those cases are, they would be included in the EXCEPTION.
However, I am a bit surprised that you would identify with the "a quitter" statement than with the "exception" considering you stated this does not apply to you. ????
marriage
God Bless You and your husband for your commitment! may u continue to be in love...
ms. tosh