Well after quite a bit of soul searching I made a major decision a few days ago. It's time for me to follow the dream that I've put on hold for so many years: It's time to make my move to New York. I lived there for a summer when I was 20 and I loved it. I just "fit" there, like I never thought I would. I left vowing I would return after I finished school, and over the years have visited several times. Then I fell in love. We moved in together, and settled into a wonderful life. I put my dream on the back burner and decided maybe I would stay forever, get married, and raise a family here, close to our friends and relatives. I was quite happy with this at first, but something still wasn't right.
As I watched my man successfully pursuing his dream of running his own graphic design business, meeting with clients, working on new projects, etc. I couldn't help but think of my New York dream that I'd hidden away. I wanted to attend Columbia and get my MFA, I wanted to study with Kara Walker and show at the Studio Museum in Harlem. And once my temporary museum job and internship both ended, I really began to feel low. I was applying for new jobs, to no avail. Things were just not picking up. And something kept telling me that maybe this chunk of time in my life had opened up for a reason.
When I expressed all this to my mate, he told me it was time to follow my dream, and that I couldn't go living for everyone else if I wasn't fulfilled. And when I said out loud, "maybe it's time for me to go now," my ancestors kicked up quite a ruckus! I mean they hadn't made that much noise since my friend called upon them in our women's prayer circle. I was overwhelmed. My man told me to just listen to them. If I was being called to New York in such a strong way, there was probably something for me there. So to make a long story short, I'm ready to step out on faith. I'll be going in late summer/fall or this coming spring.
That said, this is a huge move, and although I've stayed there before, I'd truly appreciate any advice people have on living there. What neighborhoods do you recommend? Are there any good resources for finding an apartment? I've been doing craigslist, but everything I've found is pretty high. Any advice, no matter what it is, would be helpful.
I'm with you!
I, too, am eagerly awaiting my time to get back to New York! I'm from Harlem originally, and I've been in the DC metro area for the last twelve years. My husband is supportive, and we're just setting goals and timelines to make it happen. We'd love to be in Brooklyn...I never spent time there as a youth, but the energy of the place totally speaks to both of our spirits!!
My thoughts are with you during this critical time!
**less is more...simplify**
thank you so much
For everyone's words of support and advice! The whole transition is a bit scary, but prayer has been keeping me from freaking out. I'm 26, and I know I'll want to start a family in the next few years, so this is the time. I'm not responsible for anyone but myself, so while that is the case, I want to follow my heart so I won't one day be wondering, "what if?"
I've been having a lot of dreams with representations of Shango appearing lately, and my friend was telling me one of the things Shango is all about is planning and good strategy. He never lost a war. So I've been writing down everything I need to do to make this move happen, and setting goals for myself.
And that Odunde festival sounds right up my alley, I'm gonna check that out! :)
You all are making me feel so excited to spread my wings!
soar little butterfly
I’ve been impressed with your courage since I read your first post. I am so proud of you for deciding to follow your dreams. It's not easy to listen and accept that it's time to move, especially when you’re comfortable.
All too often we women try to rearrange our dreams to fit inside someone else’s box. After years of neglecting what we really want out of life just so that we don't disrupt anyone else’s we find that time has passed us by and the opportunities that we had to create our dreams are nearly gone.
Rent and everything else aside, if this is what you want GO FOR IT. Your mate sounds wonderful and I’m sure he’ll be there for you throughout this transition.
May your ancestors continue to bless you as you walk in light toward your destiny.
With love,
Odokemi
p.s. – I live in Philly and we have a wonderful annual festival for Oshun called Odunde. If you're in the northeast and settled around June holla at me!
dust off your wings!
i wish i was more familiar with NYC but all i know about is the little hippie town about 5 hours north, that i live in which is surrounded by farms :)
but i CAN tell you that your current realization sounds very exciting & healthy. i have moved a lot in my life & it always seemed to be when things were getting too comfortable. i guess i needed some more challenges & life experience which is a guarantee when walking into the unknown. so go for it, collect your wisdom & treasures! you have some wonderful support around you, in many realms, how auspicious!
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every morning is a seed.
what shall we nourish it with?
how shall we cultivate it?
& how do we give thanks for it?
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Peace and Blessings of Abundance and Sweetness Girl!
this is a HUGE and WONDERFUL thing!
i'm making a big move soon myself! so i know how exciting and terrifying it can be all at the same time. it's kinda like that scene in indiana jones when he has to walk across the invisible bridge...*smile*
if your ancestors have kicked up a fuss...TRUST that they will provide EVERYTHING that you need. i am SO SO happy that your man is supportive of your dreams and your vision...that is a HUGE thing as well. and KUDOS to YOU! for being able to recognize that you weren't satisfied and then DOING something about it! you are an inspiration. close your ears to all naysayers and put one foot in front of the other sista!
LOVE and LIGHT to you!!!
Oyin
some women wait for themselves around the next corner and call the empty spot peace but the opposite of living is only not living ... Audre Lorde
Maferefun Osun!
From one Butterfly to another...
"New York, New York big city of dreams but everything in New York ain't always what it seems, you might get fooled if you come from out of town but I was born and raised there and I'm STILL looking around!"
I'm a dreamer and and a doer too! Among my circles I am infamous and inspiring for following my heart wherever it leads me. My dreams have led me to the mid-west, down South and the Caribbean. As a Native New Yorker I can tell you there is no place like New York in terms of Black people, Arts, Culture and Energy (and shopping). It's a great place to meet creative,diverse people, get things done and make things happen! So here's my advice...New York rent is extremely high your looking at $800 a month minimum. You need a GOOD job, and a savings to make ends meet or else taking advantage of all the resources and inspiration is HARD.
The way you described Oakland, is so Beautiful, New York is only like that in the Summer and in the nice/pricey neighborhoods. If you have a friend/family there that's GREAT, that will help tremendously. Go on and go, so you can check it off your been there, done that list. Personally, I don't think you need to live there, your life in Cali seems better. You can live your vision by creating your awesome work, communicating via internet and visiting there. You can pursue whatever it is you want right where you are, little Buddha! :)
Keep me updated, I got You...
Yes Lioness...For The Lioness You Know, For The Empress You Love, For The Goddess You Are!
Welcome Back to New York!
Seems like you have gone through everything you needed to go through in order to come to your decision. If you have also prayed, cried, wrote in your journal, daydreamed, fought, talked and discussed your move to New York then it is time to go for it my sister. I was born and raised and still here. I live in Brooklyn. There is no other place like it in the world. The culture, particularily black culture is priceless! You are into the arts? There is a community in Brooklyn which is a multi-racial community. I grew up there when I was a little girl called Clinton Hills or the Downtown Brooklyn Section.
There is so much going on there its like a little village. The arts, music, fashion, dance, culture, etc. It is close to BAM, which is the Brooklyn Academy of Music. The have all kinds of event held there all year round, a movie theatre, and as a matter of fact Their Annual Dance Africa event and glorious and exciting street festival is coming up on the last weekend of May 2008. This is the time every beautiful black brother and sister from all over come to mingle and network, dance and eat and buy black and they look soooooo good doing it! I'm sure you would fit right in. They have new developments just about done or you can rent a small apartment close by. The cost might be a little high, but I'm sure with prayer, that door will open!
If you want more information, let me know and I will look into it for you. I know making a move like this may be scary, but get use to it,
THIS IS YOUR NEW LIFE! It is getting bigger and more exciting!
Peace and Love,
Shalove