It's been such a long time since I have shared my thoughts with my beautiful sisters. I do visit the site quite often but rarely have had time to sit down and share. Since the last time I wrote, I was unemployed and at home cookin' and cleanin', trying to be the ultimate wife and step mommy. April 20, 2009, I got hired on the spot at a Social Service Agency in Queens. Its a looong commute from my side of Brooklyn but I shrugged it off and knew it was time. My sister-friend hooked it up and got me the interview. I am so grateful for her kindness and friendship. I literally blew them away and I felt so good. I was so happy, excited, and nervous at the same time. This was going to be my first real job after graduating Undergrad in Social Work. It just seemed like finally everything was falling into place as planned. Although it took a few months, I was finally on my way. "I kept my promise mom, see." However, a few weeks into a month I realized this is not the path I want to lead. I do find it rewarding to want to help out those in need. But, I don't feel like its how I want to help people. Other than the fact that the paper work is out of this world and the commute is exhausting I am sticking it through because I had months of being broke, I have to help with the bills in our household, and times are hard right now. Some financial constraints have come up and I can't quit on a whim like I did last time. For the past few weeks I have been contemplating on what I would want to do, what would make me happy? Nothing has really sparked me. I don't know how to braid hair, create jewelry, etc. I am sure it will come to me... In the meantime, I'll continue this path because I believe its the one I am supposed to lead anyway for now, because ultimately I will end up at my final destination. I find myself missing being home quite often while I am at work. Seriously, I would not mind being a house wife lol When I am there I get so bored. I feel like I need more friends. In actuality, I only have 2. That's because I am very choosey. I feel like I am now living an alternate life away from the humdrum of society like who cares if janet jackson broke up with jermaine, baby phat lovin, bamboo earrings, club hoppin, pass the spliff, hot 97 listening, jordan wearing chick. I rock my ankh, head wrap, long skirt, munchin on a veggie patty down flatbush ave and carefree. I guess I prefer to be around Women that share my ideas, values, etc. I haven't met much. I almost feel like a bunch of us on here on this site who live in NY should get together to build and create positive connections. I know thats one thing I need in my life. I am searching for so much, a rewarding career that I LOVE, genuine friends, and overall happiness.
You'll get there
I think a NY meetup is a wonderful idea, I'll be moving this month, and I have visions of meeting all these lovely ymib sistas and sharing a big pot of tea or something :)
Congratulations on the position, and being able to provide income for the family. It's good that you realized you want to do something different, now you get to begin figuring out what that is. Try making a list of skills you have, things you like to do, and the experiences that have been most fulfilling in your life, work or otherwise. I went through a similar thing earlier this year. I kept ending up in retail jobs and would very soon get frustrated with them. I sat down and looked at why I was drawn to that work, and realized it was because I really enjoyed helping people. So now I'm starting americorps to get more experience doing that. Then I got even more specific with that path, and understanding that I most enjoy helping/healing people through the arts, so I plan to volunteer with arts organizations during my off hours.Just figure out what speaks to you, and what you want to cultivate. It also sounds like you may need an outlet for some of that creative/cultural energy. Maybe writing, or a dance class? Something that makes you feel centered and more connected to your true essence and those who share it :)
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girl i think that that would be a fabulous idea!
an ny meetup...
you should do a post on the message boards (i hope that makes sense)
congratulations on knowing what you do NOT want to do! it's a huge step in the direction of your bliss! congrats on having income from a source that, if not perfect, doesn't make you wanna fall completely out in the floor. *smile*
you do live an alternative way of life...and isn't it wonderful? if i lived in NY i'd meet you for lunch and teach you how to make earrings...*smile* anyhoo...
YEAY you on all fronts...and i highly recommend the article "where do you want to be in 5 years" if you're interested in some strategic future bliss planning...
be easy sis!
some women wait for themselves around the next corner and call the empty spot peace but the opposite of living is only not living ... Audre Lorde
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