Whats up my lovely sisters. It has been a process and a journey that finally I have arrived at. My loc Journey, spiritual journey, life journey. I had been natural for 4 years, until I decided to relax my hair. As predicted, in another month I cut those relaxed ends off and let my roots shine through once again.
Before, I had thought about locking, but it just wasn't the right timing. I had to make sure I would be in the right place mentally, emotionally, and spiritually before I started locking.
I'm blessed and very thankful to say, now I'm there and the time has never been so right! *Internal Smile* I'm meditating more, praying more, learning my true worth and being the woman I've been envisioning. Sure, I'm still growing but now I'm ready to lock. But even before I had never worn my hair this short. Lately I've been wearing a mini afro, which I'm in love with and I feel amazingly beautiful. But I'm still opting to loc, simple because locs are beautiful and hold a spiritual meaning to me. Locs are the hairstyle for my soul.
But I need help, its not that I don't feel pretty with the twists, but I've never had my hair this short before. Its about 2-3 inches of hair on my head, and I feel different.
I'm not sure if I can pull this off. So my question is what did you have to tell yourself when wearing starter locs that showed scalp? Did any of you wear flowers or scarves, hats alot to play up the short style? Any suggestions?
I guess I just need some support and relateness. I'm ready to start the locking process and regardless I am couragous and I will rock the short baby twist, but I'd like to read some feedback from anyone who knows how I feel and has maybe experienced this stage.
Thanks much ymib.com Love and Peace, Success.
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You gotta love yourself!!
I started my locs 1 year ago, in secret.............WTF?? Well, I had been natural for 3 years and my husband wasn't feelin' me having locs. I started locs on all 3 of our sons (at my hubby's suggestion) and I was starting to develop some serious envy.......also, I couldn't believe he was so against it.
Well, anyhoo, I decided I had had enough.....my fro was getting so BIG - I was starting to look like Erika Badu - with the HUGE fro/wig (whatever). So, one day, I sat down and turned my mini two strand twists into braids and I haven't looked back since. I dressed those bad boys up with scarves, HUGE earrings, made my face up and strutted my stuff. But, I always had this nagging thing of what hubby's reaction would be once he figured things out............eventually my husband asked "Are you locking your hair" and of course I didn't lie to him.....my worries were over when he jokingly said "You know that's grounds for divorce: right?"
So I encourage you to folow your heart and do what you feel is best for you. Your beauty comes from truly being satisfied with yourself.
Peace to you on YOUR journey!!
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A thank you... with good news!!! :)
I'm just now seeing your comment! But thank you and by the way last saturday my journey began and I'm soooo rocking my baby twists : ) aaahh I'm very, very happy and pleased. Its such a relief. My hair hasn't even locked yet,and I'm already loving it.
I can relate to how you felt a lil conscious at first as to how your husband would react.
I feel the same way toward men. I'm not married , and I'm not in a relationship. But I do wonder how guys are going to react, especially when dating. But you know you are right... I gotta love myself and each day I'm learning what that means. Its a journey within one journey lol.
I'm looking forward to rocking the HUGE earrings too. And I have been playing with my eye makeup. Thank you again I'll so keep reminding myself of all the supportive ymib.com ladies. Peace Jennifer
I remember...
10 years ago, when I decided to loc my hair, I went to the beauty parlor and got the tiny starter twists you speak of. My mother went with me, and when I turned to her triumphantly and said, "Well! What do you think?" She just sighed and said, "you're lucky you're a pretty girl."
I know what you mean, it's a different look, and can be a bit of a shock to the system at first. I remember just being so excited to start on my journey that I didn't care much about how they looked to others. Each one is unique, each one is its own little plant flowering on your head. I remember when I first started mine, I used to talk to them, just like you talk to a plant when you want it to grow. For instance, I would tell them good morning when I would start my day and freshen them with a twist and a spray of water. Make them feel happy and welcome, and they will grow happy and healthy :)
Aesthetically speaking, I definitely spiced things up by wearing pretty scarves, funky earrings, flowers, or a new eyeshadow. Have fun with your new look! Baby locs are beautiful :)
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LOL I love your story...
Its so funny, my ma always says that, "you will be okay, pretty people can wear anything". Which I know is a compliment, so I'm like "yeah okay, ma". I don't know I'm really feeling the plant analogy going on here... I like the mentality. And I needed to hear this... baby locs are beautiful, so thank you very much!
Jennifer
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Mmm I really like your friends advice to treat my hair like growing plants. Especially because I love to garden! Wow never thought about it that way. I definitely will try and be more creative with headbands also. Thanks much for the sites , Jennifer
Embrace it
Hi Jennifer! Let me tell you I felt the same way when I started my locing process 5 months ago. I've been natural for 3 years and loved sporting the TWA but when I loced my hair, I felt so uncomfortable and self-conscious because it was way too scalpy for me and I felt like my hair looked like little worms. At first I covered them up with scarves and wraps but then a friend of mine told me to stop. She told me to embrace them, give them air, and treat them like growing beautiful plants. Three weeks into locing, I started appreciating my hair and started getting creative with headbands, pins, perm rods, and flowers. The best headbands I made are with tights/stockings. I just cut them up and turn them into manageable headbands. You could also attach small flower pins to the headband as well. Another thing that I'm learning is curling them with spongy perm rods or just the regular thin perm rods. When the locs are curled, it looks fuller and shows less scalp. Don't worry it's all part of the process and journey.
P.S. Whenever you feel discouraged and about to unravel your locs, take a moment to watch loc journeys on youtube. It helps A LOT!!! Also check out these sites for support
http://www.locrocker.com
http://www.ontheroadtoqueendom.com
Good luck on your journey!
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