In addition to our cloth, holy water, pictures and sacred symbols that serve to connect us to our ancestral past, when placing foods or drinks we might if feasible also allow room for objects that appeased our ancestors in life. Right before my altar communions I on occasion may light a cigar for my Arkansas-born -folk artist grandfather who smoked joyously as he painted (I allow it to burn freely in an ashtray) No I don't smoke, but his energy is quite pleased with this action and is more than eager to assist me with matters where his area of expertise would serve to come in handy i.e. cooking and artistic obstacles. My grandmother loved cabbage and on occasion I have prepared her favorite (with the pork included). Even though I am a vegetarian, I had to learn that we cannot force our diets on our ancestors. They will remind us of their wants as my grandmother did through a dream. She wanted her salt pork or she would not be disturbed in Orun. She got her pork and Is my protector and comforts me when I am faced with slipping back into my passive mode. She will open my mouth and speak for me if I refuse to speak for myself. When preparing meals or food offerings we have to adhere to their (our ancestors) likes not our strict code of ethics. So rum, red wine, and beer are all acceptable for those members who enjoyed an occasional taste. Leave out a small glass on the altar (even if you don't indulge in alcohol), give them what they want and they'll give you what you need. I also spray a favorite perfume or adorn my hair with a favorite flower. You don't have to go broke with your offerings but maybe once in a while prepare or do a little something special the way they (your ancestors) might have liked it. Choose a specific day in each month to be a particular ancestor's tribute day. On this day do or place items on your altar that cater to the "honorary ancestor's" favorite things. You will find yourself showered with gratitude. You might even sing a favorite song of theirs( that doesn't cost a dime) my Honduran born grandfather loved Celia Cruz so I play her to open my communion sessions-often. His delight is truly felt as my children, husband and I dance in honor of the great ones in Orun. The key is to remember physical death is only the pathway to true enlightenment.

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